Play & Protocol Ideas
Rituals, tasks, and scene prompts to explore your power exchange dynamic.
Daily Rituals
Rituals create structure and reinforce your dynamic. Here are some ideas to consider:
Morning Check-in
Sub sends a morning message with their schedule for the day and any potential challenges. Dom responds with encouragement and any tasks for the day.
Honorifics
Establish when and where honorifics (Sir, Ma'am, etc.) are used. This could be all the time, only in private, or only during scenes.
Permission Protocol
Define specific activities that require permission (eating dessert, self-pleasure, going to bed, etc.).
Posture Training
Establish specific postures for different situations (kneeling when Dom enters the room, sitting at their feet during movie night, etc.).
Evening Reflection
Sub shares three things they're grateful for and one way they served well today. Dom provides feedback and affirmation.
Scene Ideas by Intensity
Light Intensity
- Guided Meditation: Dom guides sub through a meditation focused on surrender and presence.
- Service Session: Sub performs acts of service (massage, grooming, etc.) while receiving praise.
- Gentle Restraint: Using scarves or soft restraints while engaging in sensual touch.
- Clothing Control: Dom selects sub's outfit for the day or for an outing.
Medium Intensity
- Sensory Deprivation: Blindfold combined with headphones playing white noise or guided audio.
- Light Impact Play: Spanking, paddling, or flogging with attention to warm-up and cool-down.
- Orgasm Control: Edging, permission protocols, or timed sessions.
- Role Play: Teacher/student, boss/employee, or other power dynamic scenarios.
Higher Intensity
- Full Restraint: More comprehensive bondage combined with other elements.
- Psychological Play: Consensual mind games, fear play, or extended power exchange.
- Intense Sensation: Combining multiple sensations (impact, temperature, pressure).
- Extended Scene: Longer duration scenes with multiple elements and transitions.
Long-Distance Dynamic Ideas
Task Lists
Dom provides a daily or weekly list of tasks with verification requirements (photos, videos, written confirmation).
Remote Control Toys
Use app-controlled devices that the Dom can activate from a distance.
Scheduled Check-ins
Set specific times for video calls where the sub must be in a certain position, wearing specific items, or ready to receive instructions.
Journaling Assignments
Sub keeps a journal of thoughts, feelings, and experiences that is shared with the Dom on a regular schedule.
Care Package Exchange
Send packages with items to be used during scenes, with specific instructions for when and how to use them.
Protocol Template
Use this template to establish clear protocols for your dynamic. Customize to fit your specific relationship.
Communication Protocols
- • How the sub addresses the Dom
- • How the Dom addresses the sub
- • When honorifics are used
- • How to request attention
- • How to express needs or concerns
Behavioral Protocols
- • Posture and movement expectations
- • Eye contact rules
- • Speaking permissions
- • Service expectations
- • Public behavior guidelines
Daily Routine Protocols
- • Morning rituals
- • Evening rituals
- • Mealtime protocols
- • Self-care requirements
- • Check-in procedures
Scene Protocols
- • Pre-scene preparation
- • Scene initiation signals
- • During-scene communication
- • Scene conclusion signals
- • Aftercare procedures
Customizing Your Dynamic
Remember that these are just starting points. The most fulfilling dynamics are those that are tailored to the specific desires, needs, and boundaries of the people involved.
When adapting these ideas:
- • Consider your practical limitations (time, privacy, physical ability)
- • Start small and build gradually
- • Regularly evaluate what's working and what isn't
- • Be willing to adapt as you learn more about yourselves
- • Prioritize communication over rigid adherence to protocols
The goal is to create a dynamic that enhances your connection and brings fulfillment to all involved parties.